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Sharilee Swaity... Guest Post

9/14/2017

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Welcome


I was just thinking of you the other day as I closed the last few pages of your book Second Marriage. It is an impressive read and chalked full of many excellent points. I must share with you and the readers your approach to marriage and commitment speak volumes of many ills we see today.
 
It is my pleasure to introduce Sharilee Swaity and welcome her to the “Fireside.” I believe it has been near 6 years I have been following her writing. If there has been one constant in her writing it has been her consistency to write from the heart. As she shares her experiences in life you get this sense and peace this writer has been on a journey of self-discovery.
 
The area of Canada she calls home displays some beautiful sunsets, sunrises and amazing waves of the lake right out her front door. In the mid seventies I had the privilege of living in her Province she calls home. I worked underground in the iron ore mines and eventually on many of the massive hydro projects throughout her north.  
 
So settle in everyone, as always help yourself to the small buffet set out for you. For now you will have to sample the virtual. 


Beautiful Manitoba 

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As you follow along be sure and keep this picture in mind as it is the setting which Second Marriage and your study guide were written. As writers we all like to think we have a great view but in your case Sharilee you hold the candle as having one of the best.

Sharilee can you tell us a little about yourself?
 
Hi Rolly, I am so happy to spend some time on your blog today. Thanks so much for your kind words! I have also truly enjoyed your homespun warm style of writing for a long time.
 
Well, my name is Sharilee and I have loved books and writing for as long as I can remember. In fact, my Mom told me that instead of finding toys piled up on my bed, she used to find piles of books.

I went to school to become a journalist but ended up switching into education because I thought it would be more a more practical career. I taught school for ten years and really enjoyed it, but the writing bug wouldn’t let me go.
 
Six years ago, I started writing at a place called Hubpages (where I met Rolly) and started doing my own blogs. One year ago, I took the plunge, left my job teaching grade six and devoted myself full time to

What motivated you to write your book your latest book titled Second Marriage?
 
Thanks, Rolly. This book was actually inspired by an article I had written on Hubpages. After a few years, the piece still got quite a few hits every day and to me, that said there were many people looking for good information about how to thrive in a remarriage.
 
I started expanding on the information to see if I might be able to make a book out of it, and four years later, I finally got it finished. I am extremely vulnerable in this book but both my husband and I agreed that we would open up our lives in the hope of helping others.


 Over the years I have followed your writing I have always been impressed with what you write comes from the heart. Can you tell us a little of the process you have established?
 
Rolly, thanks so much. That’s a great question. Yes, my writing tends to be pretty personal. I guess it’s because writing has always been very cathartic for me. As I am to heal and grow in certain areas, I really enjoy helping other people move toward healing, as well.
 
For example, a few years ago, I wrote a hub on the topic of workplace bullying.  I had been through a horrendous experience at a workplace and still felt traumatized by it. One afternoon, I started writing down my experience and all the things I wish I had done differently.
 
I then added in research, lots of good graphics and posted it on Hubpages. That hub is one of the top searches on Google for workplace bullying and has received hundreds of comments.
 
So as far as my actual writing process goes, I tend to write down my own thoughts first on a topic, thinking of whatever I can, from my own experience that might help my audience. Then, I try to add in some stories and examples (either from my own life, from people I know or from reading/movies, etc.) Then, I go to literature and research and look for information to back up and add to what I am saying.
 
So, I start with the personal and add in the science, so to speak. That’s just how my brain works. I am the INFP type, so it works in a different way than a lot of people.
 

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Being the educator you are have you ever given much thought of speaking to small groups and sharing your insights?
 
Wow, another fantastic question. Yes, I would absolutely love to! I am just really not sure where to start in making this happen. I would love to give lessons on my materials to small church groups. I will be doing a radio show next week on the topic of my book, so maybe this will be a start. 

For many people stepping into a second marriage involves creating a blended family. Some are instant but there is the extended family that becomes a part of your life. Can you share a little of that experience?
 
When my husband and I got married, his boys were 12 and 14. We had them at our house for every other weekend and it was a big adjustment for all of us. My husband and I have very different personality types, so even though we loved each other, it took a few years to really understand each other.
 
Regarding the blended family, that was something that really took time, too. Being teenagers, they already had their ways and routines. When I tried to change things too quickly, they understandably took offense.
 
We had some pretty tough times but I am happy to say that we are all in a really good place now. They are both in my heart and are making their way as young men in this world.


 Do you have any words of advice Sharilee for others? I know along with your book you have created a study guide. Just reading through it was a journey as well?
 
Thanks, Rolly. The piece of advice I would give to anyone in a second marriage, or starting over in a new relationship, after losing a spouse either to divorce or bereavement is to be patient. Don’t think that because it’s too complicated, it’s not meant to be. Those complications are part of the process. It may take time to work things out but it can definitely be worth it! 


What is your next project you have in mind?
 
Right now, I am almost done a workbook to go with the book. This will allow more space to answer questions from the book. As well, I am creating a second marriage journal. When those are done, I want to do a book about being married to your opposite personality. I have ideas for books in other topics, too, but now I am trying to build a library of books in this particular niche.
 
Thanks so much for having me, Rolly! It has been really interesting. 

Thank you Sharilee for your thoughtful answers. I really do think you are onto something that holds true to both you and your hubby. Material such as this is so needed and is very timely for those who are looking at that opportunity to find love again. 

Here is a link to Sharilee's book... join me in wishing her well on her journey. We are very proud of you... 


https://www.amazon.com/Second-Marriage-Insiders-Guide-Healing-ebook/dp/B071V9DXR5/


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Please be sure and leave a comment of encouragement for Sharilee... 

© Rolly A. Chabot 

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Hugs to all 
12 Comments
Bill Kovacic link
9/15/2017 10:24:18 am

Thanks for introducing us to Sharilee, Rolly. I, too, am familiar with some of her work on HubPages. She is a joy to read.

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Rolly A. Chabot link
9/15/2017 10:45:45 am

Hi Bill...

Thought you may recall her work. Always great to have you comment Bill... stay warm and dry as it is getting onto that time of year...

Blessings from Canada

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Rasma Raisters link
9/16/2017 07:50:04 am

Great interview. I will check out her work.

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Rolly A. Chabot link
9/16/2017 08:38:26 am

Hi Rasma

Sharilee has some very insightful information in her book. I would highly recommend her writing style, she has put a great deal of work into this project.

Hugs from Alberta

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Angelia link
9/18/2017 05:00:52 am

Rolly,

Thank you for the personable introduction to Sharilee and her work. Best wishes for great success in her continued endeavors in writing. So happy for another writer to get to make the transition to full time work doing what they love.

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Rolly A. Chabot link
9/18/2017 07:42:53 pm

Hi Angelia...

Yes you are so right, great to see someone take the step of faith with such a positive attitude with Hubby helping... Awesome to see... Thank you for stopping...

Hugs as always

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Martie link
9/19/2017 10:58:38 am

Nice to meet you, Sharilee Swaity!

At a time in my life - more than ten years ago - I was ready for a second marriage, but after spending about 100 weekends and two holidays with potential husband and his 12-14 year old son, I decided to run for the hills. I was married for 20 years, and I am now single for 20 years. I have a wonderful friend for the past 5 years. He lives in his own house and I in mine. He is absolutely perfect, yet I know our relationship will not survive a marriage. Because I am selfish, and not willing to allow his family (two sons, their wives and his ex) to rock my boat.

Nevertheless, I envy happily married couples and still mourn the failure of a marriage I had while I was a young woman filled with hope, faith, and love.

Please give us a link to your HubPages profile. I would like to read your hubs.

Thank you, Rolly, for this interesting and encouraging interview with Sharilee.

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Rolly A. Chabot link
9/19/2017 03:21:15 pm

Hi Martie...

You are being a wise lady at standing your ground. If you and your friend have found that medium ground that works for you that is awesome. It is all about balance and comfort... good for you.
I was not certain if you were looking for Sharilee's Hub Pages address but I took the liberty of passing it onto you...

https://hubpages.com/community/Why-I-Call-Myself-prairieprincess

Hugs and all from Alberta

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Maria link
9/26/2017 03:35:13 am

Hi Rolly,

I'm happy to get to know Sharilee through this interesting interview - thanks for the introduction.

Wishing you both a peaceful day.
Hugs,
Maria

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Rolly A. Chabot link
9/26/2017 01:53:59 pm

Hi Maria...

Thanks for stopping and yes she is a very gifted writer who has a heart for living life to the fullest... she is an inspiration for certain.

Rolly Hugs from Alberta

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Christy B link
10/5/2017 12:27:18 pm

This is an excellent interview, so in-depth and thoughtful! Well done to you both. The book sounds like it will be helpful for many who are embarking on their second marriage :)

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Rolly A. Chabot link
10/5/2017 03:30:15 pm

Hi Christy:

Thank you so much for your kind words. Sharilee has created a beautiful guide to help sort through some hard realities.

Hugs

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